I understand the need to wait on some things, but there are others that I either want to get done or need to do. I'd like to write the obituary while I'm still thinking clearly, not when I'm grieving. There's bills to pay, bank accounts to balance, ebill options to change, etc. The things that can't wait while this is going on. We need to go to the funeral parlor and set things up (once again while we're thinking clearly). This necessitates finding her life insurance policy. We also want to cash in her IRA while the stock market is still high. Other things, like what will I do about money next month and a job, are being put on the back burner while this is going on.